The following week, the organization sent me a letter regarding my membership, and this was inside the envelope:
It will be interesting playing with someone much older with much more experience. By interesting I mean I will be nervous and a little uncomfortable. The uncomfortable is instinctual - everything you learn about being a woman and keeping yourself safe. It will be in public, I know he will respect my limits, and I'll hopefully have a friend there keeping an eye out. There will be no restraints, so I'll just walk away if I need to. But still I'm nervous. Frontal lobe: please control the lizard brain. Thanks.
Also, he is a nice looking guy, but I'm not attracted to him. The thought of him touching me in any kind of a sexual way is gross.
The negotiations to date:
Hi Flogger,
I am interested in negotiating a flogging scene. Thanks for the card. I'm still relatively new, having only bottomed four times with a guy who was just as new to the scene as me. We stuck to spanking and violet wand. I've had flogging experiences twice at D101 nights and enjoyed it, and I'm interested in exploring those sensations for more than a minute and a half :-)
I am interested in negotiating a flogging scene. Thanks for the card. I'm still relatively new, having only bottomed four times with a guy who was just as new to the scene as me. We stuck to spanking and violet wand. I've had flogging experiences twice at D101 nights and enjoyed it, and I'm interested in exploring those sensations for more than a minute and a half :-)
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UTP -
I'm glad that you emailed. We can do a scene at D101 after 11 or we can wait until the BR social.
For starters, here are a few questions.
What are your hard limits?
Do you also have any interest in single tails?
How would you describe the level of intensity that you want?
How "sexual" do you want the scene?
Putting
reality aside, what would your fantasy flogging scene be like? (I do
understand the difference between reality and fantasy, but I want to
understand your mind set.)
I'm in West Virginia on business and heading back tomorrow. If you are on Yahoo, you can IM or we can email.
I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
Flogger
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Flogger,
Thanks for your reply.
Here are my thoughts based on your questions - The BR social would work best for me. I do not want the scene to be sexual at all, so my hard limits would be any touching other than my back.
This will be my first flogging scene. Based on my experiences at D101, I do know that I prefer thuddy sensations. I don't have any experience with single tails but I'd be willing to give it a try. Seems like it would be very stingy. If that's the case, maybe a very short and gentle introduction.
As far as intensity, I'd like it to vary, but I would like the experience to be challenging at points. A fantasy flogging scene would be just about the same but without the nervousness and awkwardness that comes with playing with someone new. :)
How long have you been in the scene? What do you enjoy about flogging?
Take care,
UTP
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UTP,
Flogger,
I'm planning on getting to the crucible a little earlier to do a spanking scene. So that I have time to decompress a bit, would around 10:30 work for our scene?
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UTP,
That works for me. Are you going to be up for two scenes in one night?
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Flogger,
I'm giving the spanking so I'll be fine, I just want to sit with her for a little while afterwards and rest a bit.
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UTP,
I will be putting up my wrist cuffs to give you something to hold on. When you need a break, I want you to let go of the cuff as a non-verbal signal to me.
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Flogger,
Unfortunately that won't work. I'm having some issues with my left wrist and I'll need to be free to move my arms into different positions as necessary. I'll likely let go of the cuffs a number of times. What I won't do naturally is reach ABOVE the cuffs to the top of the cross. Would that work for you as a signal.
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UTP,
That works. Lifting your foot would be okay if that is better for you. I want to make sure we have a way to communicate if the club is loud.
Thanks for your reply.
Here are my thoughts based on your questions - The BR social would work best for me. I do not want the scene to be sexual at all, so my hard limits would be any touching other than my back.
This will be my first flogging scene. Based on my experiences at D101, I do know that I prefer thuddy sensations. I don't have any experience with single tails but I'd be willing to give it a try. Seems like it would be very stingy. If that's the case, maybe a very short and gentle introduction.
As far as intensity, I'd like it to vary, but I would like the experience to be challenging at points. A fantasy flogging scene would be just about the same but without the nervousness and awkwardness that comes with playing with someone new. :)
How long have you been in the scene? What do you enjoy about flogging?
Take care,
UTP
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UTP,
I've been in the scene for for more than 10 years.
As far as what I like with flogging, I like seeing the reaction from the
bottom. Marilee moves around if she is enjoying it.
Do
you want to be on a cross or on a beam? Do you want to be restrained?
I'll give you a non-verbal signal to use to let me know when you need a
break.
We are not going to be at D101, so the social will work well.
Talk soon
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Flogger,
I'm planning on getting to the crucible a little earlier to do a spanking scene. So that I have time to decompress a bit, would around 10:30 work for our scene?
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UTP,
That works for me. Are you going to be up for two scenes in one night?
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Flogger,
I'm giving the spanking so I'll be fine, I just want to sit with her for a little while afterwards and rest a bit.
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UTP,
I will be putting up my wrist cuffs to give you something to hold on. When you need a break, I want you to let go of the cuff as a non-verbal signal to me.
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Flogger,
Unfortunately that won't work. I'm having some issues with my left wrist and I'll need to be free to move my arms into different positions as necessary. I'll likely let go of the cuffs a number of times. What I won't do naturally is reach ABOVE the cuffs to the top of the cross. Would that work for you as a signal.
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UTP,
That works. Lifting your foot would be okay if that is better for you. I want to make sure we have a way to communicate if the club is loud.
